One of Madea’s comedy bits is about understanding relationships. Using the analogy of a trees, “Madea” says that some people are like leaves, some are like the branches on a tree and, then there are those friends who are our roots. Read this: Madea shares how to understand relationships.
Most people are like leaves.
When the wind blows they go to one side of the tree and then the wind blows the other way they are on the other side. They are totally unstable. All they do is take from the tree and only give shade. When the seasons change they wither and fall off the tree. But don’t be angry with them; this is who they are. God put them in your life just for a season.
Some people are like branches on the tree but watch out for them.
They make you think they are your friends but the minute you step out, they break and leave you.
Oh, but God bless those folks who are the roots.
But find two or three people who are your roots. They are there to help you live and give stability to your life. A tree may have one thousand branches but just a few roots. Hold on to these people.
The lesson is to be able to let people and relationships go.
And learn how to be alone and first love yourself. You cannot others until you learn to love yourself. you should learn to be at peace with yourself and others. Get rid of the dysfunction and let people go who continue to create drama and dysfunction in your life.
1. It’s okay to be depressed and cry for a minute, but don’t stay there too long. Get up and get on with your life. If somebody wants to walk out of your life, let them go. Whatever they are running after, they will see what they had but by then it’ll be too late.
2. Years down the road, you’ll be saying – WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING?
3. Some people come into your life to teach you something.
4. Some people are like leaves, branches or the roots of the tree. Make sure you know who are the roots.
5. It won’t be easy, but it would get easier when you learn to love yourself.
6. People need to learn to be by themselves. How are you going to be someone else if you can’t be with yourself?
7. Only 2 places where you will have peace – the grave and your house. Make sure you have peace in your house.
8. This one’s my favorite – Some people come into your life for a lifetime, some come for a season. You’ve got to know which is which…
Tyler Perry says
I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever…They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this:
Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.
There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again, you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are.
If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.
Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people’s lives?
THANK GOD FOR THE ROOTS!
~ I fall, I rise. I make mistakes. I live, I learn. I’ve been hurt, but I’m alive. I’m human, I am not perfect, but I’m thankful.
Well said Madea.