21 Years

So today is Tom and I’s 21st wedding anniversary.Oh the fun we have had, and the challenges we have faced along the way.

(Tom & Debbie 1995)

Job highs and layoffs

Health and sickness

Laughter and Sorrow

Through all that we never lost respect for each other, never gave up as so many due today.
It’s not always been fun, in fact the hard work is after you get married.

Facing hardships and knowing together we can get through anything.

(Debbie & Tom 2016 )

When your to short to fit in the selfie and husband has no idea how to work your phone haha

I’m so happy that I married a good,honest,kind and loving man
There is no one I would rather spend my life with.
So here’s a beautiful poem about the art of marriage.

The Art Of Marriage

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created.

In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted; The courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is beingthe right partner.

It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.
The Art of Marriage by Wilferd A. Peterson, published in THE NEW BOOK OF THE ART OF LIVING, Simon & Schuster, New York, © Wilferd Arlan Peterson, 1962, 1963; ©Lilian Thorpe, 2004.